Love and belonging

A sense of belonging appears to be a basic human need[1][7][19]. When individuals are accepted, welcomed, or included it leads those individuals to feel positive emotions such as happiness, elation, calm, and satisfaction[10][14][19]. A culture of compassionate love can increase mood, quality of life and satisfaction[3]. A sense of belonging can increase personal achievement and performance in the workplace or in education[4][17][20][21]. A sense of connectedness can release Endorphins which can create the sensation of euphoria and relief from pain[6]. People who are loved during life die satisfied[5]. When individuals are rejected or excluded, they feel strong negative emotions such as anxiety, jealousy[9], depression[15][16], and grief[11][12][13]. The psychological pain caused by social rejection is so intense that it involves the same brain regions involved in the experience of physical pain[8]. Reduced sense of belonging has been linked to decreased personal achievements in groups[2]. People who lack belongingness are more prone to behavioral problems such as criminality and suicide[18], and suffer from increasing mental and physical illness[7].

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I involve myself in communities where I feel welcome.
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