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Non-violent communication


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I only use violence for self defence.

I do not use force to educate or punish others.

I do not use force to get what I want.

I make requests rather than demands.

Instead of saying "No" I say what is preventing me from saying "Yes".

I say what I want others to do rather than what I DON'T want them to do.

I say what I would like others to do rather than saying who they should be.

I communicate my needs and how to meet them.

I don't judge people. Instead I observe and learn.

I speak kindly, but clearly, without sarcasm.

I phrase requests positively rather than negatively.

I don't try to force others to feel, think or act the way I want.

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      Private notes on 'non-violent communication'

      Nonviolent communication is about developing behaviours that reduce conflict and violence. We use the term Nonviolent communication in a more general sense. For the more formal definition and methodology of NVC see Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC).
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      Nonviolent communication (NVC) has been reported as effective in reducing domestic violence[5]. NVC enhance the ability to work together and live together with more vitality and harmony, handle conflict, and respond to others with more interest and understanding[3]. NVC improves conflict resolution[2]. It is found to increase equanimity and decrease anger[4]. Prisoners trained in nonviolent communication has shown improvement in self-reported anger, self-compassion[1]. In general NVC principles helps to develop empathy[6]. Empathy strengthens social bonds.

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      • Freedom Project: Nonviolent Communication and Mindfulness Training in Prison, SAGE Open 2014 4: DOI: 10.1177/2158244013516154 View
      • [2] Nash, A.L. (2007) Case Study of Tekoa Institute: Illustration of Nonviolent Communication Training’s Effect on Conflict Resolution. MS Sociology. Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University, Blacksburg, Virginia: 40 View
      • [3] Burleson, Molly, Martin, Monique and Lewis, Rashunda(2012) Assessing the Impact of Nonviolent Communication: An Outcome Evaluation View
      • [4] Suarez, Alejandra; Dug Y. Lee; Christopher Rowe; Alex Anthony Gomez; Elise Murowchick; Patricia L. Linn (11 February 2014). "Freedom Project: Nonviolent Communication and Mindfulness Training in Prison". SAGE Open (2014 4): 10. doi:10.1177/2158244013516154. Retrieved 24 April 2014. View
      • [5] "Batterers' intervention recidivism rates lowest known to date". Mountain Democrat (Placerville, CA). 30 April 2014. Retrieved 1 May 2014.
      • [6] Juncadella, Carme Mampel (October 2013). "What is the impact of the application of the Nonviolent Communication model on the development of empathy? Overvie" (PDF). MSc in Psychotherapy Studies. Retrieved 16 May 2014.